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Want to feel empowered? Give up trying to fit in :)

October 7, 2021
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Want to feel empowered? Give up fitting in.

When we let go of trying to blend in and do what "everyone" does, we honor our true needs. And feel empowered.

For much of my life I've felt a bit "irregular" among peers...not entirely fitting in. Sometimes I could celebrate my differences and other times I suffered from self-judgment.

In the past few years, and more strongly, recent months, it has become crystal clear to me, that if I wish to do my best work, to collaborate with people around their Soul work, I must let go of trying to fit in.

I've finally realized, and moreover accepted, that I cannot do this work AND fit in, doing what everyone else is doing, operating in sync with modern culture. (i.e. uber busy, go-go-go, socially plugged in to the "cool" scene, even alcohol!)

It is a huge claiming. It is sometimes daunting. And sometimes a little lonely (which can be remedied when you find your "tribe").

Amazingly, now that I have fully claimed my not fitting in, it's actually incredibly empowering and I finally have permission to BE in a new way...a way I'm meant to be.

An example: I go to a social event where there are a variety of lovely people. We talk, we share about what's happening in life, kids, marriage, career. In the moment, FUN! However, typically I go home exhausted.

As an empathic HSP, social situations require immense energy output from me-- there is an exponential amount of information to sift through and process-- environmental stimuli around me and all the energy/moods/emotions of others. If there are lots of people/stimuli, it can be really challenging, even draining.

I can do it-- be social in those environments and conversations.
And yet, what is even more true, is that I'm not really built for being busy, in stimulating environments and super social.

I'm built to observe and gather lots of subtle information and energy, interpret it and reflect it back to others (clients) in a new way that offers a fresh perspective.

Now that I know that, I can start to see my differences as "superpowers"-a whole new view. I can start to care for them and cultivate them, rather than ignoring my needs and feeling drained.

Here are a few energy-giving and nourishing practices for me:

  • quiet time alone
  • time in nature
  • meditation
  • writing
  • creating/drawing/coloring/painting
  • 1:1 deep conversations about soul, life purpose, intuition

In the end it's a choice...and not always an easy one. Sometimes I need to decline an invite or go home early. Other times I may have to "flex" my comfort zone-especially with an 8 year old who loves being active...(immediately followed by an energy rebalance so I can be my best self/wife/parent/coach/leader.)

Now I know.
Now I own it and understand what I need to thrive.

Does trying to fit in drain your energy?

If so, consider:

  • In what area am I trying to fit in (and over-flexing to my depletion)?
  • What do I actually need?
  • In what area(s) of life can I confidently give up fitting in to reclaim my energy (and self-esteem)?

There is so much energy we gain through owning & accepting:

  • who we are
  • all our differences
  • what we truly need to thrive

Want to explore what helps you thrive? Book a Breakthrough session.



Robin Berg


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Robin Berg Like you, I’m on a journey. I’m passionate about learning and strive to transform life’s challenges into learning, so that I can evolve (sometimes ever-so-slowly) into the best version of myself. Like anyone, I’ve had my struggles, be it healing memories from the past, navigating health issues that folded into fertility issues or having a son who has a digestive disease/disorder and the constant vigilance that it requires. And all that I’ve learned I’m devoted to sharing…so that maybe some little tool, or a nugget of insight, or hope might support you in your journey to know your Self, your Soul and step into a life of feeling guided. I always say I “accidentally became spiritual” through practicing yoga. It’s true— it opened something in me that I didn’t know was there and caused me to see things I was formerly completely unaware of. I like it much better. So, for the ups and downs, the glimmers of things useful, I’m open to sharing. Feel free to let me know if something speaks to you. *Note: These past several years I’ve been focused on life as a Mama while maintaining thriving cozy coaching practice. Now, in 2020 I’m gearing up to start sharing and expanding again. Meanwhile feel free to check out posts on instagram @RobinPBerg and Facebook