Are You Carrying Someone Else's Burden?
A Sneaky Energy Drain    

It seems safe to say we all want to feel good. We want to feel healthy and energized, to have a sense of peace and vitality in our lives.

Whether we're aware of it or not, managing our energy is an art form. It's no accident the days that we have high energy or low energy, the blues or bliss- it all gets created by a number of factors, many of which are within our control.

One factor that is particularly sneaky that I want to highlight, is when we "take on" what's not ours to the point of our own depletion.

Energy is a subtle yet powerful thing. It is everywhere-whether cell phones, radio waves or simply the energy that gets passed along from person to person during the day.  Ever feel totally drained after spending time with a "Woe is Me" person? Ever feel inspired after hanging out with a super high energy, lover-of-life?

You can't help but be surrounded by the energy of others every single day. However it is within your control as to the way in which it impacts you.

A Story
Recently I was teaching a client an exercise to help her re-energize and get grounded. Part of the exercise explores the distinction between what is our own natural energy and what energy belongs to someone else that we have accidentally taken on. (This happens a lot to parents when out of concern for their child they take on the emotion or worry of a situation the child is going through. It's normal yet still depleting.)

During the exercise my client was astounded and moved to tears when she discovered that she was carrying the burden of responsibility for someone in her life-she had taken on their fears, worries, anxiety, concerns, and limitations. It weighed on her like a giant boulder. She hadn't realized that it was draining a lot of her energy and that she'd lost touch with some of her own vital, natural energy.

After doing the energy exercise, she couldn't believe the shift she felt in her body when she imagined letting go of the burden and simply allowed love in its place. Nothing to fix. Not letting go of the person. Simply allowing them their journey and holding a place of love instead. She had a rush of peace, lightness and breath.

The reason I mention this is because most of us are hard-working, devoted people who care a lot about others. Chances are that unless you have a consistent practice of "clearing" yourself of everyone else's "stuff" you're unintentionally carrying around the burdens of others.

Focus on the love instead of taking on someone's stuff. (Remember, some of the stuff is integral to their Path and their Life Learning...it is theirs.)

NOTE: feeling good isn't some selfish state of being that we should be lucky to have. Feeling good is our innate state that allows us to make a profound difference in the world when we're at our best and believe in possibilities.

Want to explore?
Begin by getting to know your innate energy--pay attention to how your body feels and what feels natural to you. From there you'll be able to start recognizing what isn't yours and take steps to re-set yourself.

Want to learn more? Keep your eyes peeled from my upcoming Spring Special --Energy Series!

Much joy and freedom,
Robin

About Robin:

Robin Peglow Berg of http://www.soulmoxie.net/ is a Success and Fulfillment Coach--a consultant, coach and speaker devoted to guiding others to have the courage to live a fulfilling life with soul.

She shows highly driven, successful women entrepreneurs and biz leaders how to create a new model for success that is energizing, deeply meaningful and helps them to thrive no matter what. She applies 10 years of coaching, consulting and speaking to craft strategic programs for long term success.

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