Do you trust yourself?
A key to self-expression, fulfillment and powerful decision-making 
 
I remember in college how I first discovered that I had no idea what I wanted or truly who I was for that matter. I changed my major three times and I didn't even know what clothes I liked-I just wore what everyone else wore and what I'd always worn!


It wasn't until I was in my early thirties that I discovered what kind of clothing I loved-clothes that felt like a form of self-expression instead of ones that were both unflattering and uninspiring to me. I just didn't care about clothes. Until I did.

Then I discovered a surprising rush of confidence and joy that came with wearing clothes that felt like "me."

This is one small example of how many of us have never known or have forgotten what we like, love, helps us feel self-expressed, or what choice feels "in alignment" with our purpose. ("What purpose?!")

It is urgent to discover NOW what you like and build your life around it. Unfortunately many people wait and later feel incredibly lost when they face a big life shift--illness, job loss, breakup, retirement, "empty nest," etc. They have forgotten what makes them happy and suddenly there are no more distractions.

It comes back to trust
The way I see it, if we don't trust ourselves, it's really difficult to have a life that we love. If we're constantly deferring to the wants and needs of others, asking other's opinions to guide all our decisions, then most likely we do not fully trust ourselves. (Yet!)

Imagine that you completely trusted your own inner wisdom. When someone asks you what you'd like to do over the weekend, instead of saying "I don't care, what do you want to do?" you take a moment to ask yourself the question. You then share what feels really fun, nourishing or restorative to you. In that moment you have achieved a number of things. You have:

  • Strengthened your awareness of your needs.
  • Reinforced that you know what is best for you.
  • Enhanced your willingness to risk sharing yourself and your desires with someone-asking for what you want (and allowed someone else to contribute to YOUR happiness).
  • Increased your self-trust.


Can you believe all that happens in such a seemingly inconsequential choice?

How do I know what I want?
One of the best ways to "remember" what you like, love and energizes you, is to learn how to listen to your heart and inner wisdom.

The key is turning inward and listening to your SELF.

Really, turning inward is a form of intuition. (Intuition as I loosely define it is simply enhanced awareness of an aspect of life or yourself.)

Using intuition means that when faced with a choice, you reflect first.

Rather than doing what you think everyone else wants you to do, or doing what seems like the kind thing, or what will look good on your resume, you actually take a few moments to get quiet and listen to your inner-self for the answer. You take note of how each choice "feels" to you and choose the one that seems to "sing" to you. The one that feels right to YOU.

Start with small choices until you get in the rhythm of what "feels right" and then use it for more important choices!

 

Want to learn more about turning inward and using your intuition? Attend my July 20th retreat (http://tinyurl.com/Soul-IntuitionRetreat) or schedule a 1:1 Intuition Series (http://www.soulmoxie.net/discover-intuitive-style.php) for yourself! It could change the whole way you relate to your life and SELF!

 

Much joy and freedom,
Robin


About Robin:

Robin Peglow Berg of http://www.soulmoxie.net/ is a Success and Fulfillment Coach--a consultant, coach and speaker devoted to guiding others to have the courage to live a Soulful life and be Soulful Leaders.

She helps driven individuals to discover their intuitive style to make a right decision every time. She shows them a new model for success that is energizing, deeply meaningful and helps them to thrive no matter what. Robin applies 10 years of coaching, consulting and speaking to craft strategic programs for long term success.

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