What DO you want?

Ok transparency- there are a couple shows I love to watch on CW. I find all things superhero and magic really fun and a great source of imagination and entertainment! Also honestly, I appreciate how CW finds a way to weave in relevant social issues into their storylines. It's kind of inspiring.

That said, I just heard something truly profound on Charmed (yes Charmed), that I listened to four times- a conversation between two characters that went something like:

Jordan, as he spoke about a dream job: “and then I’m finding myself saying and doing things that don’t feel like me. Ambition is scary monster.”

Maggie: “I guess we just have to figure out a way to get what we want without compromising who we are.”

Jordan: “First we have to figure out what we actually want.”

And I could end right here and that might be enough to think about today.

That’s really the BIG, first and most essential question.

What DO you want?
What do YOU want?

It can be a hard questions to answer especially if we’ve been in roles of service or been raised to be of service to others.

Girls and women are particularly trained around this mindset. To be kind, generous, allow others to take a turn first, to help those in need, to be supportive. And often, especially for any moms, to put the needs of others/your child first.

You may think:

“So wait…you want me to be able to answer the question, “What do I want?

But I haven’t been raised listening to that channel.

I’ve been on the “How can I help YOU?” channel.”

It can feel a bit overwhelming to wonder if we even truly know what we want. And yet it is crucial that we learn how to explore that question. It truly is the key to happiness, confidence and creating a sense of peace and flow in life.

You can NOT experience true alignment and fulfillment until you know what you want, who you are, what is most important to you.

AND, the good news is, you need not know it all now. You need not answer it all at once.

It truly is a slow unfolding like seeing a daffodil begin to poke through the earth and snow this time of year. Ever so slowly, it reaches to the sun and then evolves fully into the beauty it always was and was meant to be.

It can seem like it was overnight but think about all those days that the bulb rested in dark stillness in the cool earth.

I believe that all endeavors, no matter how immense they may feel, can be sorted out into many small steps.

A first step towards knowing what you want could be to simply start a running list (paper or digital) of all the things you love and enjoy….everything from flavors, fragrances, sights, and sounds, to activities, hobbies, types of tasks, times of day.

Just start noticing and gathering all that YOU love.

If you could choose anything to wear, eat, or drink and could do anything you wanted (for fun or pay), what would those things be?

Have fun with it. Don’t quit your job or stop helping the people you care about.

Just start noticing what you love.

Then consider making a bit more time in your life for more of what you love, if only 10 minutes a day.

Sprinkle a little more of what you love throughout your life.

And little by little you’ll start to clarify the things you love most, what you can’t live without and still be you, and what is essential for you to thrive.

Then answering the question “What do I want?” will become incrementally easier.

Enjoy the journey!

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Joy,

Robin
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